Wedding Sentiments
Last June I got two marriage invitations. In July tomorrow it is said there are two, will be three. Starting from a relatively younger spouse but he dared to marry last month. Then my close friends in junior high, high school, and college, almost all married in the range of May-July. Hhh ...
I envy them. Getting married is a big decision, you know. A decision that not everyone can do. Including me. I once commented, "Why do not you want to get married soon?" Pingin sih pingin, but ... nothing but. I also can not find the reason why I myself seemed to delay marriage. About my parents who want me to graduate a new marriage, ah, can be lobbied. About earnings, ah, can be searched. After all, if my process is right, married can open the door of fortune, as he promised. About a fussy parent-in-law if I have not had a regular income and have not graduated college, ah, can be answered with, "Although I have not fixed income, I still earn." And so on. Non-technical technical issues can be arranged and lobbied.
It turns out the hardest for me, is lobbying in question. Ckck ... It's impossible for me to lobby an in-laws candidate if he is not ready. I rarely throw salary slips and monthly income if my parents have not introduced to the prospective wife. It's just a lie if I try to bring together two families if we ourselves do not know when ready to get married.
Actually it's not about getting ready not ready. But feel important or not to get married soon. If I feel that marriage is not important at this time, then I will not hasten to marry. If I think that mecca is not a priority for now, then I will never feel ready for any time. Not because of my age that my neighbors say-still too young * narsis lu, fid *. Nor did I still feel poor and have nothing. Precisely God would ease my fortune if I married to 'produce' the next generation who continue to uphold His sentence.
So, am I ready? Emm ... aduuh ... this question also I can not answer. I do not want to be called unprepared. If people ask, am I not ready? Oh, surely not, God willing I am ready. If people ask, am I ready? Emm ... * sigh *
Ready not ready, I feel that marriage is important, and marriage is not a matter to postpone. When it comes to defecating, I can delay. Matter of marriage, I can not delay. * kok married compared to the CHAPTER / BAK, fid? * The temptation of a great tuh bongkang, you know. Too big. Whether it's temptation to the opposite sex, or the temptation to treasure, even career. That is why a married man is said to have completed half the religion. Because it has a family brake. And ideally, this brake is used, you know, not displayed in the status KTP aja!
I can say that my parents spread the temptations of my career. Telling me to pass, although in some ways, that logic is true. If graduation is used as an excuse to delay marriage, that's what I disagree with.
I postpone marriage because I have not seen anyone who can see that marriage is a hurried affair. Getting married is not a goal, marriage is a means. There granted him immense pleasure, permitted him what was previously unlawful between the two, and more importantly, there is an element of education to print a better generation than the previous generation. So from here, fixing a country can start from improving oneself and family.
When I can see anyone can see that getting married is important, then I can say that: I am ready to marry her. Because marriage is a means to get His blessings, to invest rewards through godly children, and to improve this nation.
May Allah ease our steps. 🙂"May Allah gather the scattered of both
bless them both
presumably God raises their offspring
to be the opening of mercy, the source of knowledge and wisdom
as well as the safeguard for the people "
(Prayer of Prophet Muhammad SAW on the day of his marriage Fatimah Az-Zahra daughter with Ali bin Abi Talib)
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